Recovering From A Bad Experience
If you’re coming home from a long day of sorrow because of a bad encounter, stop the sympathy that you’re enduring right now. Your situation may be because of a bad encounter with a person, or something that didn’t go as planned—even when you pictured a perfect scene in your head before all of this happened. The problem with this is that you’re getting too far ahead of yourself, you tend to rationalize things way before it even began.
Instead of planning things out to make it all perfect, let’s begin by planning out things to do right at this very moment.
Whatever has happened happened, let’s put this out of the way.
Analyzing what just occurred or why it occurred will not help with the current situation. By over-analyzing what you just experienced, you are adding fuel to the flame. By this, I mean that you’re acknowledging your sorrow, which will only add upon more of your sympathy, bringing yourself down further into a mental state of mind. Why not worry about the things that you can control now? There is actually a way to get started right now, and that is to forget your problems and to live in the moment.
Unless your past experience was a good one, it’s time to move forward with what you have and experienced, it’s time to stop the sympathy that is holding you back. If you don’t think that you can recover from such a bad experience, then you are probably not ready to read the rest of this article. If you’re ready to become someone that is tired of feeling like they’re dragging through the day, I encourage you to keep reading on.image by dan
Many people go through life experiencing awful situations; some worse than others. The only way to overcome such feelings is to move forward. If you do not, how can you ever get out of it?
What you went through is a learning curve for any mistakes that can be avoided later on. When you overcome something so bad, it makes you aware of that specific case and you tend to be more smarter about it next time. That’s a good start to look at things, isn’t it?
When you are sorrowful look again in your heart, and you shall see that in truth you are weeping for that which has been your delight.
A growing experience is a growing progress of a better self. What if you never experienced what you just went through, would you say that you could of made progress compared to another time from the past? Probably not, because you wouldn’t know what to improve upon (of course you would have to mastered the art of planning ahead, but that rarely works out).
It’s all about living the moment right now. What you do now is what will determine the future ahead of you. If you’re able to go back to the past and fix what you wish, by all means, you should take advantage of that time travel! However, the reality is that many of us (or so to speak) don’t have that kind of luxury, which is why time is so important, and which is why it is called “the present”.
Stop giving away time by dwelling on what you can’t change from the past. The more time you spend dwelling, the more time you waste because time does not wait for you, it continuously keeps on ticking on and on.. Live this time now and look forward to making things better than what you have already built. Whatever you need to do or want to accomplish, do it now because now is the moment that matters, not the past. The past is history, the present is the gift. Take advantage of the present so that your future can be something that you look forward to. After all, everyone looks forward to any kind of presents that are given, time is no exception.
Sometimes we stare so long at a door that is closing that we see too late the one that is open.
Alexander Graham Bell
Any encounter that you go through, you can always make it to where you become a better, stronger being. Continue to exceed yourself. Don’t just let one bad experience bring you down, especially when it took you so long to overcome what you have fought for, whether it be a more confident self, becoming better at interacting with people, or just about any kind of self improvement.image by dan
You have came a long way, don’t let your sorrowfulness take over the moment, the present, because this moment, this present, is where you are given another chance to make the future another present.
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